How to Give Your Child a Blessing and a Bright Future

Another World Series is over. I admit. I didn’t watch one game this year. Time did not allow. But I did read an article that caught my attention.

If you’re dressing up for Halloween anywhere in the Kansas City area, dress as Madison Bumgarner. He must be the Royal’s biggest nightmare. Two wins and a save helped the Giants to another World Series title.

What got me interested, admittedly a little late, was an article about his father. Living “somewhere east of Granite Falls, in the Appalachian foothills,” the interviewer tells a down-home story of Madison’s family.

His father, Kevin, had texted Madison after the eighth inning of Game 7. Madison had come in as a relief pitcher—rather than his usual role as a starter—to help clinch the series. Kevin’s text to his son read: “OMG. You’re so much more than awesome. To see you work on the mound reminds me of watching you in high school. You are willing yourself to perfection and dragging the team along with you. I couldn’t be more proud of your baseball accomplishments.” (You can read the full article here.)

The text reminded me of how important it is for parents to speak (or in this case, text) words of blessing to our children. Even when they are grown.

Here are some things to keep in mind when “blessing” your children:

  • Meaningful touch is important. Hugs, kisses, putting an arm around their shoulder when you affirm them or pray for them tells them you accept them. No matter what age they are.
  • Speak words to them. Some parents aren’t as comfortable with words. Maybe your parents did not say affirming, positive things to you. But you can learn. And it is crucial. Tell your kids that you love them. Tell them why you are proud of them. Tell them how they bring joy to your life.
  • Picture a special future for them. Help them see their future. Find what it is they are good at and are wanting to do and tell them you will do whatever you can to support them. Harry S. Truman once said, “I have found the best way to give advice to your children is to find out what they want to do and then advise them to do it.” Remember, it’s their future. It’s their life. Help them live it and not just the one you want.

And if you’re thinking, “I’ll get to that tomorrow” . . . don’t. Do it today. Kevin did not even wait until the game was over to send a word of blessing to Madison. He said, “I knew he wouldn’t read that text before the game was over but I wanted him to know this was what his daddy thought of him.”

Let your kids know what you think of them today. (And now I wish I had watched the Series!)

Question: What words do you need to say to your children today?

 

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2 thoughts on “How to Give Your Child a Blessing and a Bright Future

  1. I LOVED this! What a great reminder…too often as a parent of both adult children and teens, it is too easy for me to get so busy that I forget to even send a text of encouragement sometimes. My eldest work crazy hours since one is a Houston Fire Fighter, another working swing shift, another 12 hour shifts and recently back on active duty in military, and yet another one busy as a bee with 7 year old and working…so talking by phone isn’t always feasible. However, I do send text when I think of it to encourage, and or scripture to help them through the day..but now since reading this blog will do it more often…for goodness sake, it only takes a few seconds for most..but remember to check the predictive typing..LOL or who knows what you’ll send..Just the other day I sent one to my daughter as she was riding her bus to school that was only filled with icons of a plane, ship, and balloon. She questioned, “What does this mean?” I said the plane…was a reminder to her that she could soar through her day with the strength of God. The ship was a symbol of steadfastness sailing above the see unshaken…to remind her to stay focused, and the balloon of course was the old cliche of “the skies the limit” with her dreams. She absolutely loved it! Now she sends me icons of reminders, we have our very own little code now. I feel privileged as if I’ve been accepted into her little world of text lingo.